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If my oldest child is angry, he is always wild. He hits me and is dangerous. Could I hit him, too? I don't want to hit my son. But he is always wild and cries and he had broken Birgüls favorite doll and very nice pictures from her. Sometimes he hits the twins, too. What could I make? Mrs. Demir
and you should be that mature not to pay him out in his own coin. My advise is to stay calm, to explain him not to beat his brothers-and-sisters. He is 6 years old, isn't he. Thus he is capable to understand the dos and donts. If you start or continue beatin, this might become the only or dominant way of "communication". Who raises hands first is to lose! Best regards AyLe
Is here an other psychologist, too?
I think it's quite natural to be some kind of desperate if your child doesn't behave as you expect him/ her to. But the most important aspect in education is to treat your children well, not to beat them, not to shout at them. Unless you don't agree in this need, you'll face some more grave problems in future. Best regards AyLe
Yes, I say, he's a bad child and he will pushined, if he does it again. He can choose, how I pushined. Do you know jean Piaget? He asked his child, waht he means to pushined a child. Then he asked: A boy doesn't buy a bread for his family. What does the father do? The child can not ride his new bike for one week, the child gets no bread, wich is in the fridge or the father doen't help him, if he want anything.
If you tell him he is a bad child, you condemn him to stay bad. Tell him you do not like his behaviour, and you want him to act otherwise. Tell him WHAT you want him to do INSTEAD of hitting. Maybe he is just helpless and finds no other way. If he hits a child because it took something away from him, tell him he should ask the other child to give it back. YOU need to make positive suggestions. And do not tell him he is a bad child. If he thinks that even his mother believes ha can do nothing but hit, he will never try. It is good that you let him choose. But do not let him choose his own punishment. Sit down with him and let him find other ways to act in the situations in which he usually hits. And then let him choose one of the alternatives for the next time he gets in that sort of situation.
hi, it may be hard for you but: stay calm! he lives up to your expectations. maybe he is jealous? do you give him a lot of positive attention? do you tell him you love him? his aggression is a way of telling you he needs attention. never ask him how he wants to be punished. children never want to be punished!!!!!!!!!!! tell him over and over again that this behaviour is not acceptable. try to avoid situations like that by staying calm and givíng him positive attention. it´s illogical to hit him becaus you don`t want HIM to hit anybody. kokosnüsschen
denn lt. eigenen Angaben im Mehrsprachig ist sie 19 Jahre alt, ihr Mann stammt aus der Türkei. Hier aber behauptet sie, Ihr Mann sei Schweizer... AyLe
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Huhu! "What could I make" klingt schon hart nach deutschem Hintergrund, jedenfalls keinem Englischen, wies im Türkischen mit solchen Handlungsverben aussieht, weiß ich nicht. lg - roma
Nachtrag: gleiches gilt für "my man is german"
oh, Mann und Frau zugleich, ich fasse mir hier gerade an den Kopf, damit ich ihn vor lauter Scham nicht auf die Tischplatte haue... und dabei habe ich doch mal Englisch studiert... (ich liege jetzt doch mit der Stirn auf dem TIsch...) LG, AyLe
spricht, und da ja auch gelebt hat wenn sie schreibt, sie ist von Englang....duerften diese deutsch-englischen Grammatik Fehler echt nicht sein. http://www.rund-ums-baby.de/grundschule/mebboard.php3?step=0&range=20&action=showMessage&message_id=20616&forum=194 bin ja mal gespannt, ob sie sich nochmal meldet. HOffentlich irren wir uns. Bischen mehr internationaler Wind waere hier recht schoen. Da alle deutsch reden, merkt man ja nicht, wo hier alle sitzen... LG
im Schulforum net auch noch auseinander.....*GRRRR* dass man hier auch net editieren kann *mecker* LG
Ich fürchte auch, dass sie ein Fake ist! Erst sagt sie, ihr Sohn habe ihr den Nick "Türkeimädchen" vorgeschlagen, dann aber sagt sie, ihre Kinder wüchsen ausschließlich englischsprachig auf. Ist doch irgendwie seltsam, dass das einzige deutsche Wort ihres Sohnes ausgerechnet "Türkeimädchen" sein soll, oder?